Snatch their weapons

I am writing this post for various reasons, Firstly because some thoughts come quite well when written, secondly at times you have lot in mind to share, so you fall short of words, therefore penning it down gives your thoughts meaning and structure. Last but not the least; I am writing because i think I have a solution to a problem. Whole of the world is tackling the Problem of terrorism in their best possible way, but they are unable to put an end to it. There has to be a reason for it, the reason is we are not been able to Snatch their weapon as yet. We are fighting with them, we are Defaming the whole community, religion because of these people and that’s giving them enough air to survive. So read further to find my best attempt to cease them for once and all.


Yesterday, after my regular updates on my Facebook, Linkedin Profile, i was just reading my wall updates from my friends. There were few friends who were protesting against the terror attack on Varanasi Ghat, which happened 6:30PM Yesterday. No way can such an act of terror be tolerated under any circumstance. I condemn those peoples who are behind these and such attacks.

I know my condemning is not enough for people who suffered at large by such activities. I really feel sad and have no words to touch their hearts extending my condolences. At the same time I feel guilty to an extent as people who have taken the responsibility of the attack happens to belong to my community. And they do it in the name of Religion (ISLAM) Astaghfirullaha.


While I was thinking the whole thing about so called Islamic Terrorism, something clicked me. And that’s what inspired the solution.


Here a small story, it goes like this...


there was a father and a son. Son was very notorious since starting he was involved in all types of ill practices. Father use to guide him but he never listened. Father was never strict to him though. Father tried his best to make him right but all was in vain. Time kept moving ahead, and slowly people started talking bad about the son, father use to defend him, but again people started saying that father is supporting the son. That bothered father but he could do nothing as his son never listen a word of his father. As time passed by, people started talking bad about the whole family and the clan. People said that person of this family are all criminal nature, they have history behind them, and that is reason their son is doing such things. This shook his Father and he was very much upset, He called a big gathering one day to announce in public that he disowns his son from his Family and Clan. As his son has got all the bad names for his people and he owe an apology to all, he should have done it earlier but because of love of his son He could not do. But not it is the high time so he did it now. People by large supported him. And his son when found that he has been disowned by his father, realized that he is left with nothing. The reason people were not taking any action against him was because of his family, but now as his family support he not there he can not use their name Now on, so he was left alone, with only choice to improve or perish.


SO what i got from this is, we followers of Islam should come together on a National and International Platform In media, and declare that these Terrorist outfits are no more related to Islam, and have no right to use Islam's Name for their malpractices and wrong intentions. This will be sudden blow to them and i believe that they will suffocate and die.

This declaration will put an end to an ongoing stigma in society that they are supported by us. And also will cut their roots this will limit them to themselves, and they will not have enough air to breath leading them to die.

One this will also happen very important, if this declaration is supported by Media strongly then young people who fall their prey will understand that the whole community is not with them and they are using them for their wrong intention against ISLAM.

My humble request to Media and Other community is please understand our Religion ISLAM before tagging as Terrorism. There are Criminals, goons, murderer, Protagonist etc in every religion, but just because of handful people the whole Community can not be blamed. Instead of discussing the problems over and over again let’s talk the solution.

What we see today is a result of events that happened years before, we can not define, punish or label based on present we have to look into the past. There is a problem which can be solved with strategy and open mind approach. Our action today will result in better World tomorrow.

Let's stop fighting with them, let’s snatch their Weapons!!!

Life is all about Choice!!!

Parents will hate me for this!!!

Recently I met with a lot younger group in Agra and found that there is this new wave of leaving colleges in twelfth standard and join tuition classes, the reason being both can’t go hand in hand. This was shocking to me.

While thinking over it for sometime as thought to put this to discussion with other people and following is the conclusion from the discussion.

Over a period of time I realized that education has become a big Business and in this business target customer are Students, with all these competition preparatory courses offered by coaching institutes, have created a trend of no choice, no interest just the follow the flow.

It’s high time that this should be checked.

Most of the student doesn’t even know what an Engineer does in his profession or what value will an MBA add to his profile. They do these courses as that is latest Trend and that will help them get a good job. (Assumption)

May be a lot serious reason for this are the peer and the family pressures. Also the education system in our country is not good to help student take the right decision.

Somewhere in the battle between career security, family and friend expectations, influenced media hype, Interest and choice of education looses.

Student should be asking the following questions before deciding what they want to do.

What I want to become in life? Why I want to choose a particular stream over the other? Do I Really know my interest? Do I have enough understanding of the profession I am opting for? Am I taking the right decision?

Parents should be asking following Questions before guiding there children for future.

Are we giving our children enough space? Have we helped our children know themselves before deciding over there future? Is there any kind of pressure which is influencing our children to choose any particular field?

In the past few years we have seen that no field is lesser than the other if we have the right passion and interest in that field. Be it sports, arts, hobby, business or any other profession. Sky is the limit for success if we choose by choice and not by trend.

Days we left behind

This is not my write up but certainly something worth sharing. 

I received this on my email from some email groups, i like it, hope you like it too.

When Gulli-Danda & Kanche (marbles) were more popular than cricket.

When we always had friends to play aais-paais (I Spy), chhepan-chhepai

& pitthoo anytime ...

 

 

When we desperately waited for 'Yeh Jo Hai

Jindagi' (Doordarshan serial)

When chitrahaar, vikram-baitaal, 

Dada Daadi Ki Kahaniyaanwere so fulfilling.

When there was just one Tv in every five houses and...

 

 

When Bisleris were not sold in the trains and we were worrying if papas 

will get back into the train in time or not when they were getting down 

at stations to fill up the water bottle ...

 

 

When we were going to bed by 9.00pm sharp except for the 

'Yeh Jo Hai Jindagi' day ..When Holis & Diwalis meant mostly 

hand-made pakwaans and sweets and moms seeking 

our help while preparing them ...When Maths teachers were 

not worried of our Mummies and papas while slapping/beating us ..

When we were exchanging comics and stamps and 

Chacha-Chaudaris & Billus were our heroes ..

When we were in Nanihaals every summer and loved 

flying kites and plucking and 

eating unripe mangoes and leechies ..

When one movie every Sunday evening on television was more 

than asked for and 'ek do teen chaar' and 'Rajani' inspired us ..

 

When 50 paisa meant at least 10 toffees ...

When left over pages of the last years notebooks were used for rough

 work or even fair work ...When 'Chelpark' and 'Natraaj' were 

encouraged against 'Reynolds & family' ...

 

When the first rain meant getting drenched and playing in water and 

mud and making 'kaagaj ki kishtis' ... When there were no 

phones to tell friends that we will be at their homes

at six in the evening ..

 

When our parents always had 15 paise blue colored 'Antardesis' and 

5 paise machli wale stamps at home ...

When we remembered tens of jokes and were not finding 'ice-cream & 

papa' type jokes foolish enough to stop us from laughing ...

 

When we were not seeing patakhes on Diwalis and gulaalson

Holis as air and noise polluting or allergic agents ...

 

The list can be endless ...On the serious note I would like 

to summarize with ...

When we were using our hearts more than our brains, 

even for scientifically brainy activities like 'thinking' and 'deciding' ..

When we were crying and laughing more often,

more openly and more sincerely ..

When we were enjoying our present more than worrying about our future ..

When being emotional was not synonymous to being weak ...

When sharing worries and happiness didn't mean getting 

vulnerable to the listener .. When blacks and whites were 

the favorite colors instead of greys ...

 

when journeys also were important and not just the destinations ... 

When life was a passenger's sleeper giving enough time and 

opportunity to enjoy the sceneries

from its open and transparent glass windows instead of some

super fast's second ac with its curtained, closed and dark windows ...

I really miss them(From the bottom of my heart).. don't u?

"Hew not too high lest the chips fall in thine eye."

Its been a long time, almost 12 years. February'97

I was in High School then, were about to appear for the Board Examination in March'97. School authorities organise a farewell party to set the mood right, so that we can face the board with all the good wishes from our Juniors and faculties. I don't remember the date but very much sure that the whole batch was dressed in the best attire except for our section. We were in our School dress.

I remember, it was our day in school, you know how it feels to be a guest in your own School. I was one of the oldest student in our batch, my year of admission was 1984. so now you can realise how i must have felt. I witnessed teachers turning grey in there early Forties. It was a one BIG FAMILY for me.

Juniors and teachers put in a lot of hardwork to organise this event, they manage everything,from Snacks to Drinks, from Decoration to Entertainment and from Games to Titles... yes Titles. This was very interesting as everyone in our batch was given a title. Let me first explain what is this title and how it is given.

Title is a phrase or slogan which relate to your personality, like if someone has beautiful hair then she will be given title "AE HASEEN HELLO GIRL" like wise. After all the events and game were over, we were asked to come on stage to collect our titles, given by Teachers. I could relate to most of the titles my batchmates received except that for myself. When my name was called, i went on the stage and it was one of my favourite Teacher Mrs. Tripathy she read the title as i was reaching the stage, after collecting the placard, i turned toward her and asked, "Ma'am could you please explain the meaning." She said, " You wil come to know yourself."

Thay day i never bothered about the Titles. And after that day the title was never in my memory. It was only recently while i was cleaning my room i found my title placard, it reads as follows: "Hew not too high lest the chips fall in thine eye." I googled it on the net and realised how correct a Teacher can judge you with out letting anyone know. 

Thank You, Mrs. Tripathy.

Life with out Cell phone!!!

It is not impossible though!!!

People use to have a good life, in times when cell phone were not invented, i.e. most of the known and unknow history of mankind. But for last few years we have seen man getting dependent on cell phone to an extent that with out a cell phone life seems to take a sudden U Turn to 19th century.

Two times in two months, i.e. from 4th Feb'09 to 10th Feb'09 and then from 17th March'09 till today, i was with out a contact Number, reason being i lost my cell phone. The first time i lost was while i was travelling from Agra to Delhi and second time when i was shopping in Delhi. Both the time i could not believe that actually the cell phone got stollen from my pocket. Hats off for the talent these pick pocketers have, really amazing. You will not believe till you do not experience yourself, Hope you do!!! 

It is mandatory to block the number to avoid any misuse, and to save yourself from future consequenses. WHich is in itself a troublesome process, i called up Airtel Customer service told them the whole story how i lost the cell phone, but he could not help me anyways, as the number was from Agra and i was in Delhi, but he did give me an advise that i should register a complaint with the police so as to block the number easily. SO at first convenience i walked in a police station and narrated the whole incendent but they simply refused to lodge a FIR, giving all the attitude as i was responsible for the loss. After I gave up on them and was walking out, one of the policeman, gave me an advise, that instead of filing complaint for Theft of cell phone simply go ahead with report loss of cell phone in some area. I followed what he said and to my surprise my job was done, all i had to do was to write an application mentioning that i lost my cell phone on my way home. They acknowledge my application and handed me a copy of the application. I scanned the copy and emailed it to my friend in Agra, he on my behalf submitted the same with the Airtel Customer sevice and blocked my sim card and issued me a new sim with the same number. Which i received on 10 Feb'09.

Now the next time when i lost my cell phone i straight away went to police station with the application and my job was done again with no problem. This time there was a new problem. To get the new sim card with the same number i called up my friend in Idea cellular he promissed to give me a complimentary sim without any fee om order to get a free sim i had to wait for some time before i could get one. So it took good 10 days. 

16 days i felt that though life become tough with out a cell phone. At the same time in absense of cell phone you are at peace with yourself. No calls for credit cards, dialer tones, home loans, etc, No sms received with jokes, shayaris, offers, etc. No calls from people you don't want to talk to. No wrong numbers. And  you can do anything at anytime without any disturbance at your wish. 

You actually say, "Instead of being governed by time you can actually govern time".

Its really a wonderfull to live a life with out cell phone.

Try to try it!!!

Back to roots........

Let me start by saying that I have seen many ups and downs in my 28 years of life, i learnt more when going was tough than when going was easy.

I left Agra after my 12th in the year 1999 after 18 years since i was born. Then on, i travelled to different places like Lucknow, Allahabad, Aligarh, Hydrabad, Noida, Delhi, Gurgaon, Mumbai and Chennai. When i was in Agra i wanted to go out and face the world on my own. I use to call Agra as "Aa Gira" so always wanted get up from there and move on to some other place.

On my journeys i learnt many things which education can never teach, that is management of every type, from money to time, from resource to people, from PR to HR. I say this because i am not a MBA, and do not believe in it. I have worked with HCL Technologies BPO services in Noida,  Parsec Loans in Gurgaon and Adventity in Mumbai. All these places were very different from each other but the problems you face there are more or less same.

The very first problem you face is to get an accomodation, and if you are a bachelor then your expirience will be double bitter and if you are muslim then the intensity goes 3 times and if you want to live alone you are in big Q/A session with brokers and landlords. in my case i had all the 4 situations clubed together, so you can not even imagine what i had to go through, to fine a decent accomodation. I really learnt it the hard way. 

Then second task ahead of you is to arrange for your fooding which again is a trouble, you have few options to try, first is to find a hotel or  tiffin service which provide you food but the quality and quantity both are not satisfactory so you obviously can not depend on them for long. Option number 2 is to set up a kitchen in your flat, this option invite more trouble then anything so if you are ready to take it only then think of it else rule this option out. Thirdly you can look for some aunty in neighbourhood who can be of great help, but the probablity of finding such aunty is very less, so if you find it you are lucky.

Third problem is even more complex, that is to maintain good relationship with your neighbours, when they already have preconceived idea about bachelors, they are not welcome. They will do everything to stimulate you to make a wrong move and then they can pounce at you. So beware of your neighbours. The best way is to practice disipline and Gandhigiri.

I am sure you will not welcome any further trouble but as they say "There will be no mercy". You still have to do for what you are here, yes!!! Work. That is the only thing you enjoy as that pays. 

After living this life for good 9 years, i decided to be back to where I started from, Agra. So moral of the story is "No mater how high you fly but the truth is you are tied to the ground".

Soon you realise better for you!!!

Life is what happens to you when you are busy planing something else!!!

People normally belief that planning is must for any task you do... no doubt about it.

But sometime you just have to give up the plans and do what already has been planned by someone else... yes that someone is Life.

following is my 2nd time expirience....

After spending 3 years and 8 months working for 3 different companies, i finaly decided to come back home to do something close to my parent.  Clueless of what i will be doing i resigned on 13th November'08, flew back to Delhi and then went to Agra by road.

Got a mixed reaction from family and friends. family was concerned about the libilities i had in my name and friends were surprised that at the time when people want to hold their jobs and wait until recession is over i am going against the tide and want to start a business, that too with out knowing what business.

But the truth was that i was sick of working for other and wanted to do something for myself being close to my family, that was a well thought decision at that point of time.

After spending some qaulity time with my parents, i started to organise the house for new establishment I also started exploring the market to know what best i can do  in Agra, one month passed by just like that. On 6th December'08 i left for Lucknow to attend one of my friend's marriage, that was again a very good expirience, i came back on 15th December'08. 

 and to my surprize i found that my Mother is suffering from Esophageal Cancer and that was where everything came to a halt.

Then we  decided that we will not waste any further time and take her to AIIMS for the treatment as that is the best hospital. Though the hospital was very good but the number of patient they entertain is way beyond my imagination. It took almost 8 hours before we could meet the doctor. On 29th December'08 we got some test done to confirm the Cancer was Malignant and then some more test and again some more test. Only after one month of testing and meetings with the doctor we got her finaly admitted to AIIMS on 4th Feb'09. I decided that except me no one can take care of her properly, as my sister is working and she is a single parent herself and my father obviously can not do all the nursing the way it should be done. I was with her all the time at AIIMS. Doctors informed us that they will operate her on 25th feb'09 till then she had to keep her weight stable as she was completely on liquid diet through a pipe inserted from nose. After the operation she spent 40 hours in ICU and we could see her only once in a day. She came out of ICU that was a great sign of relief. Finally she was discharged on 12th March'09 after spending 37 days at AIIMS.

Now we have to visit the AIIMS on 20th March'09 for routine check up. Doctor are waiting for pathology report to decide further treatment. 

We are now indecisive about whether to go back to Agra or to wait in Delhi. Untill doctors do not give a green go. 

With what thought i left my job and what i  had to do after leaving the job. I think that was not question of choice but matter of destiny...

So in life sometime you do thing naturaly without planing... because that has already been written.